Your destiny is determined by the choices you make. So chose now!
Eric Berne (a Canadian-born psychiatrist) created the theory based on three ego-states of the individuals in interpersonal relationships. Which is involved the Parent, Adult, and the Child state? According to this theory when we communicate with someone we are always staying in one of these states.
We think that we can distinguish one ego-state from another. When you meet someone for the very first time how often you catch yourself on ideas like that: ‘He doesn’t act his age!’, or ‘She is so bossy!’, or ‘He is only eight but he is so mature! That’s amazing!’
But what happens if two ego-states were mixed in one person? Or if the man can’t in or out from a specific one? Let’s look at some examples.
The type #1: Preconception is conception
This is the type of people who usually use impersonal sentences when they talk about themselves. For example, ‘Every bullet has its billet’, ’ Every solution breeds new problems’, ‘Money can’t buy a life! ‘
This person from the moment of birth took parental mottos for reality. Sometimes they do it because they think it’s cool and sometimes it’s just a pure mental attack. In other words, people who have the influence on you can suppress your voice of intelligence.
This is the type of people who stays in a Parent ego-state. They know everything better than others. They are always right. And you just can’t win from them! Because they know what’s better.
Solution: if you are in a relationship with this type of person – the brainstorming sessions will be the best solution. Turn it to a fun game. The science of humor will help a lot. Be patient. Start with something small. For this type of person, it’s critically important to learn how to delegate. To let someone else is deciding what to do. For the Parent ego-state people, the ability to ask a point of view from someone else is a must have!
To be continued…