The human individual is prone to mood swings, labeling others and following stereotypes of society.
Here are some types of clichés and stereotypes that you could or will experience in the future:
Superiority. The man who is surpassing us in anything will automatically receive a credit of trust whether it’s an expensive car, high position in the company, money or great entertaining skill. More often we just overestimate this person relying on one of his “hallmarks”.
Good attitude. If someone treats us without aggression or trying to help us with something , we’ll give a credit of trust to this person as in the previous case. We will ignore his actual personality because for us this person is already good. And all further communication with this person will be built according to this principle.
Desires and mood. Not a secret that we see things that we want to see. We are more open and receptive to people and information we like. And the person who is being a good mood more often will estimate people around him as positive and “good”. On the other hand, the sad/moody/grumpy type of person will see life and people around him full disappointments, complaints, and regrets.
Stereotypes. Stereotypes can be different. From behavioral till cross-cultural. From light and funny, till pretty hard and offensive based on race, height, weight, skin color e. t. c. Such stereotypes you’ll find in all cultures without exception. They prevent the right perception of people.
The opinion of others. You may see that sometimes, the words which were saying incidentally have the most affecting power than the actual “mental drill”. If someone will give an overall assessment of the person in which we are interested, we are likely to try to put this person within the framework of getting the pattern. Often that happens on a subconscious level.
How to work with stereotypes?
Look at the world through the eyes of a child. Kids open to everything. They look at the world from a different angle. They see things and people as they are. Whatever their education, career or material welfare is. Before you will judge someone makes a conclusion based on your own face-to-face communication with this person, regardless thing you may hear about him from someone else.
Get out of your comfort zone! The stereotype is working and non-working statement/thoughts/beliefs whatever you call it. And not always it works in a pleasant way. A lot of people do believe in stereotypes. Try to put yourself in situations which you’ve never been before. Try to experience different situations where you’ll have to make decisions. The more experiences and stress-factors you’ll try, there thicker skin you’ll get.
The bad is not the worst. Yes, is that much simple. It’s not gonna solve the problem, but it will work as a patch for a short period of time. When you’ll need to complete something you are working on, such a simple comparison will help you to win a little bit of time, bring your inner resources together and focus on the things you do. You situations could be bad, but someone may have even worse.
Try to wear their skin. The best way to understand new culture/point of view/aspirations/statement is to actually surround yourself with people who’ve already experienced it. With people who understand and shares the same values. At least try to understand their motives, even if that is so different from your own. Be curious and open to new things.
Don’t be on a negative stage. Instead of questions, “What am I doing wrong? Why do I have such a bad luck” ask yourself “What can I do to change my situation?”, “What recourses and skills I already have?”
Stop having expectations! When you do this you always will have the reasons to be disappointed about something. When you catch yourself on thinking about it, ask yourself, “What are my expectations based on? On the real life obstacles or I just want to get something from somebody?” Try to switch your attention on here and now, on a present moment of your life. And stop guessing.
Set realistic goals. We all heard the phrase, “Go big or go home”, right? So, it is not working for everybody. When you being too hard and critical of yourself, when you planning something global… You probably won’t achieve it. Ever. Why? Because the goal is too big and it will be difficult for you even to start of the fear of failure. There is too much pressure. There too much responsibility. There is a huge risk of disappointment. So you can end up with being a dreamer, and keep destroying your self-esteem. You know, sort of a writer who is writing for the drawer? So set realistic goals. Don’t be too hard on yourself. And little by little, you will achieve all of your goals!